Our Mission:
Healing.
Healing Lives...One Heart at a Time.
In honor of this year’s theme ‘Survivor Voices: Elevate. Engage. Effect Change.’ we asked survivors
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Survivor Voices:
“My son, who was a victim of crime, he was shot and killed in 2008. His death impacted my life, our lives very hard. I feel an empty space in my heart that no matter what, it can not be filled. A part of me died with him . I don’t go outside any more because he was murdered right in front of my house.
I hate to say the way I coped with it was numbing myself, self medicating. Chris T. was a beautiful young man full of smiles, love.
I am still in grieving class, therapy it helps. Sometimes all we need is someone who understands what we are going through and Loved Ones helped me along the way. I’ve been with them for 7yrs now.”
Everything that happens to us brings us to the place we are right now. For me, two violent crimes against my loved ones changed my path and brought me to where I am today. Although I struggle with grief and post traumatic stress, I like to believe that I have become a better person than I may have been otherwise. Experiencing sudden, violent losses brought out a deep empathy and awareness and changed the way I talk to people. More importantly, it made me a good listener. I learned how important it was to simply let people talk when they are in pain.
I carry one great piece of advice from my first grief counselor. You are not grieving on anyone else's watch. It is a lifelong journey. Grief is personal and nobody else can tell you how to grieve, when to feel good or bad, when you should be happy again. It will not always be the very first thing you think of in the morning, but it is there with you in your peripheral vision always. And you learn to live with that. We all grieve differently, there is no handbook for this. Having a trusting, loving community of others who truly understand what you have experienced is a vital part of the healing process.
1. Reading the 5 Stages of Grief initially and posting it in my home helped lots. I read it often.
2. Remembering that my Intelligent, Talented, Educated, Sweet, Kind, GREAT BIG BROTHER, and a GRANDSON , Creative, Handsome SUN SON, would want me to SOAR not SUCCUMB.
3. Joining LOVS WAS and REMAINS AMAZING IN MY RECOVERING. I started off with private individual sessions there for myself and my remaining son, then went into the group with other parents in my situation.
4. My SUN SON, through his transition, created a business for me named after HIM of course that keeps me busy and earning a bit of money. I handmake crocheted hats and now have become a vendor at different events around the city. I HAVE SAID accidentally CREATED a business, but others say nothing happens by accident.
5. I also get so many SIGNS from my son that he is still with me. Friends and family can’t get over it.
In closing I always knew he was special. I always felt a since of Awe and Admiration while in his Presence. His friend would say while he was living “Long Live the KING” when parting with each other. They all had special salutation's that they used in saying Good Bye to each other.
HOW Amazing that, that was IYAYI’S, which in his Nigerian Fathers language means “Faith” and so appropriately named BY HIM at his birth at the hospital.
I can’t express how much Loved Ones has helped me through one of the most difficult times of my life. Loved Ones doesn’t just talk at you, but talk with you, teach you how to work through the difficult times. They check on you. The staff at Loved Ones really cares about you and working with you . The care doesn’t stop after a few weeks or months, they are there for you always.
For Adults (ages 18+):
Homicide & Grief - for adults who have lost a loved one due to homicide or violence
COVID-19 Bereavement - for adults who have lost a loved one due to COVID-19
COVID-19 Emotional Support - for adults needing emotional support due to the adverse effects of COVID-19
LOVS has expanded its support groups to address the current needs of the community, with new groups available for adults and teens. Check out our offerings below and sign up to receive more information.
For Youth and Teens (ages 10 - 18):
Homicide & Grief - for youth and teens who have lost a loved one due to homicide or violence
COVID-19 Bereavement - for youth and teens who have lost a loved one due to COVID-19
COVID-19 Emotional Support - for youth and teens needing emotional support due to the adverse effects of COVID-19
Teen Trauma- for youth and teens who have experienced or witnessed any form of violence, such as bullying, harassment, abuse, etc. and are seeking emotional support
LOVS has provided effective support for our clients in various ways such as, individual, family and group counseling, art therapy, uplifting outings and other restorative activities and events. Our primary focus and concern for our clients is to assist them in moving through the pain and trauma caused by their losses.
LOVS has provided over 33 years of therapeutic and emotional support to victims of crimes and their
family and friends.
LOVS has served and impacted over 17,000 individuals and families since its start in 1985.
LOVS is a non-profit organization that provides much needed counseling services to victims of crime and their family members. We provide services such as individual, group and family counseling, art therapy, client outings, grief coaching, and other events to support victims of crime.
Group counseling is a very effective way to address specific concerns in a supportive setting. LOVS offers a grief support group for people who have lost loved ones to acts of violence.
Individualized issues related to grief or loss of a loved one are addressed in a comfortable therapeutic setting. Individual therapy provides a more private and personal setting in which to process grief.
LOVS offers grief coaching for individuals who may not be interested or ready for therapy, still find purpose and healing after the loss of their loved one.
- Anonymous Client
Loved Ones works with a variety of charities and community organizations in an effort to supplement funding for services. However, there are a couple ways you can get involved.
Volunteers are the heart of Loved Ones Victim Services and provide an immense value to the program and community.
Loved Ones has established a variety of community partners and donations from all sources are greatly appreciated.